Some Bullet Points for the Journey

Sunday Service in my Head  4/6/14

Today I am finishing a service for a man who was the true embodiment of the His Holiness the Dalai Lama’s statement, “Kindness is my religion”. A couple of weeks ago, I shared an article titled JOURNEY WELL  (worth your time to read), and it started with the quote  “Live your life so the preacher won’t have to tell lies at your funeral.”.  Rob did.   Going into the light

A good friend of mine has a tricky surgery scheduled, and my conversations with her about her own “unknowing about the outcome” have opened even further the doors to my own inner thoughts on life and death.  I’ll share with you the big one going on in the inner discussion room. What do I do with my Life, to make things better for my family and friends when I decide to take a walk with Death? What new choices do I make now, knowing that this question even surfaced?

I started this SSIMH on Facebook (against my new rules) and got up to pet cats, pour coffee, and get a small piece of chocolate. When I sat back down,  I did something mysteriously stupid, and deleted all I had done.   First Bullet Point for the Journey – PAY ATTENTION TO THE MOMENTS.  Make what you are doing important. Don’t bother doing it if it’s not.


  • Do-Overs aren’t really do-overs because we can never do the exact same thing twice.  We don’t get Do -Overs with our life either. What is done is done. Sometimes we are blessed with a Second Chance. If that shows up at your doorstep, make sure you have a better plan in place this time.
  • Your real story is who you are, and how you treat others, not what you do for a living.
  • Happy Moments are the best things to collect in your Memory Box. Create more of them. They should be sprinkled as liberally throughout your day as my husband does with real grated cheese on pasta.  (that’s a lot)
  • Death happens to the body, but not the spirit, soul,  Big Me, or whatever you choose to call it. We are not our fingernails and toes. I have heard from others, and witnessed for myself, too many things not to be committed to that truth. Death is not partnered with a delete key.
  • We never cross alone. Someone who loves us will always be with us.
  • The Angels never leave our side. If you haven’t been talking to your A-Team, you have been missing out on a valuable tool for the ride in this Fleshsuit. The Angels of Comfort are experts at time of grieving (0f any sort). Call them in.
  • There are Saints and Masters walking among us, and most of them aren’t surrounded by any hubbub.
  • When someone we love crosses over, we will hurt.  Oddly, that’s the good news.

 How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.

A.A. Milne

How lucky I am to have

This SSIMH is dedicated to Rob Guzman. From the moment I met him about 30 years ago, my every encounter with him was in a space of kindness and respect. A good husband, father, grandfather, great-grandfather, uncle, friend. A good man.  I said in JOURNEY WELL ” for funerals, I have learned that I get “called in” when it’s important that the life of the person who crossed, and the grieving of those who remain, need my unique voice.”  It is a blessing for me to do Rob’s service, because I get to swim in the goodness of the life he lived, to find the words to share.  No lies needed this round. He has a beautiful and love worthy dash.

SUNDAY SERVICE IN MY HEAD musical selection – Amazing Grace – Johnny Cash.


Artwork by Diane Schuster



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